Where to start
Start with what is actually going on.
These are the situations people describe when they first write to me. Find the one that sounds like your life and start there.
- You have talked about it for years. You can still feel it.
You know the story.
- You can see the pattern. You still cannot stop it.
It is the same argument with a different person.
- You grew up. Something in you did not get the message.
You have a life that works.
- When it happened without warning.
There is a particular kind of loss where there was no illness, no goodbye and no chance to say the thing.
- Wanting someone again, and feeling guilty about it.
Two things are true at once.
- You do not want more dates. You want the right one.
You are perfectly capable of getting a date.
- It is one argument. You have had it four hundred times.
You could both perform the other person's lines.
- You are trying to decide whether to stay.
You have been turning it over for months, possibly years.
- It is finished. Now you have to work out who you are.
Everyone congratulated you on getting through it, and then went back to their lives.
- You are on edge most days and cannot point to why.
Nothing is wrong.
- It is two in the morning and you are still awake.
You were exhausted at nine.
- Everyone thinks you are fine. You are certain you are not enough.
You have the evidence.
- You know it is irrational. That has never once helped.
Flying, driving over the bridge, needles, lifts, speaking in front of eleven people.
- You have stopped before. That is not the problem.
You have proved you can stop.
- You have had all the information for months.
Leave the job.
- The chapter ended. Nobody wrote the next one.
The children left, or the marriage did, or the business, or the person.
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We talk, you ask questions, and you decide if this is right for you. No pressure either way.