Walnut Creek, California
Everyone thinks you are fine. You are certain you are not enough.
You have the evidence. Qualifications, results, people who love you. It does not touch the belief, because the belief was not built out of evidence and cannot be argued down with more of it.
This might be you if
- You dismiss every compliment within about a second
- You are waiting to be found out
- You over-prepare for things other people walk into
- You can list your failures instantly and your achievements slowly
Affirmations mostly do not work, and here is why
Saying a sentence you do not believe, to a mind that has forty years of contrary filing, mainly proves to you that you do not believe it. The belief is not stored as an opinion. It is stored as a conclusion drawn at a moment, and that is what has to be reached.
It is usually one moment
Not a childhood, not a parent, one moment, often unremarkable to everyone else in the room. Someone laughed. Someone did not look up. A child concluded something about their own worth and filed it as settled fact. Everything since has been evidence collection.
What it feels like afterwards
Not confidence in the loud sense. People describe something quieter: the absence of the running commentary. You do the thing, and there is no voice narrating how it is going.
How I would work with this
You have never had a shortage of evidence. You have had a conclusion that will not read it.
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We talk, you ask questions, and you decide if this is right for you. No pressure either way.