Walnut Creek, California
You grew up. Something in you did not get the message.
You have a life that works. And a reaction that belongs to someone much younger keeps arriving anyway, usually with the people closest to you, usually at the worst moment.
This might be you if
- You feel about eight years old in certain conversations
- Criticism lands harder than it should and lasts longer than it should
- You are the responsible one and have been since you were small
- You have forgiven them intellectually and your body has not
You do not have to relive it
This is the fear that keeps most people from starting, and it is the wrong fear. The work does not require you to narrate your childhood in detail to a stranger. Brainspotting in particular reaches the memory through where you hold it, not through how well you can describe it.
It is rarely the event people expect
Very often it is not the loud thing. It is a small ordinary moment where a child drew a reasonable conclusion, something like it is safer to need nothing, and then organized the next forty years around it. That conclusion is what we are after.
What changes afterwards
People describe it as room. The situation still happens and the drop underneath it is gone. One of the clearest signs is that you stop rehearsing conversations in the car before you have them.
How I would work with this
The child made a good decision with the information available. You are allowed to update it.
Start with a free 15 minute call
We talk, you ask questions, and you decide if this is right for you. No pressure either way.