Walnut Creek, California
Wanting someone again, and feeling guilty about it.
Two things are true at once. You miss the person you lost. And you do not want to spend the rest of your life eating dinner alone. Most people cannot hold both without feeling like a traitor to one of them.
This might be you if
- You have taken the profile down twice
- You worry what your children or your friends will think
- You find yourself comparing everyone to a person who is no longer here
- You are lonely and you are not sure you are allowed to say so
I have sat exactly where you are
After Jim died I did not think this part of my life was still open. It was. I met my next partner at sixty two. I know both halves of what you are feeling because I felt them at the same time.
Loyalty and loneliness are not opposites
Nothing you do next takes anything away from the person you lost. What usually needs to move first is not your opinion about this, which is often already sensible, but the flinch underneath it. That is workable, and it moves faster than people expect.
Then the practical part
How to write about yourself honestly. How to tell early whether someone is available in the way you need. What to say about your loss and when. This is the part I teach, and it is the part almost nobody is given.
How I would work with this
You are not replacing anyone. You are still here, and you are allowed to want company.
Start with a free 15 minute call
We talk, you ask questions, and you decide if this is right for you. No pressure either way.