Who I work with
I have been where you are, twice.
My husband Jim and I were married forty two years. He died suddenly, of a heart attack, at sixty. A later partner of mine was killed in a plane crash. When I say I know the shape of this, I am not being kind to you.
What people bring me
Rarely only sadness. Far more often the moment of finding out, still lodged exactly where it landed. Anger that feels shameful. Guilt about a last conversation. And the particular loneliness of being surrounded by people who have decided you are doing wonderfully.
About wanting company again
Many people carry this in silence for years because they believe wanting it is a betrayal. It is not, and I say that as someone who had to work it out from the inside. Whenever you get there, and it may be never, nothing about it takes anything away from the person you lost.
What people in this position usually bring
- A sudden death with no warning and no goodbye
- Images and moments that arrive unasked
- Guilt about the last day
- Wondering whether they are allowed to want someone again
How I would work with this
You do not have to be finished with grief. You do have to be able to breathe.
Start with a free 15 minute call
We talk, you ask questions, and you decide if this is right for you. No pressure either way.