Who I work with
Nothing is wrong. Something has gone quiet.
There was no betrayal and no crisis. You are polite, you are functional, you split the logistics well, and somewhere in the last decade you stopped being curious about each other.
The children leaving reveals it, it does not cause it
For years the household supplied the conversation. When that goes, two people are left in a quiet room with each other and discover they are out of practice. This is extremely common and it is not a verdict on the marriage.
Forty two years gives me a view on this
I was married to Jim for forty two years. Long marriages are not held together by never drifting. They are held together by noticing the drift while it is still small enough to talk about.
What people in this position usually bring
- Companionable and no longer close
- One wants to talk about it and one very much does not
- Retirement arriving with two different plans
- Twenty years of small resentments nobody ever raised
How I would work with this
Quiet is not the same as finished. It is usually much more workable than people fear.
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